Growing up, I was pretty much allowed to do whatever the heck I wanted. Which is probably the reason why I stayed out of trouble. Because as children they enjoy doing things they know they are not supposed to do. It is an adventure in their little heads. Don't get me wrong, I did a few things that could of potentially have got me a big whipping. But they fact that my parents did not give me boundaries, make me want to get Dorrian a ton of them. I am a middle child, meaning I have a younger brother. He is 13 years old, so he is going through his teenager years. But every time I go to visit my parents, I notice how much it effects him to not have any boundaries. Even he can run wild and do what he wants and my parents do not care. He is not a bad kid, just has a bad attitude. Which in my opinion, results in being able to do whatever. I believe that when parents set boundaries for their children, it grows respect. It teaches the children to respect their parents and what they wish for you. When you do not have those rules, you children can start running over you and doing what the heck ever because they believe you will not care. This is why I plan on being an overbearing mother.
When I say that, I mean my kids will have a scheduled t.v. time. No access to a computer unless we are in the same room. But will have a limit on that also, unless they are doing homework. No cellphone until they are at least 15. I don't believe in having their own computer until they are old enough to make the money and buy/make one. Won't go outside by themselves until they are at least 7 or so. Unless we have a gated backyard. If they want to stay at a friends house, we must meet the parents of the child first. Must do their homework when they get home before anything else. Have a strict bedtime and no watching tv before bed etc. I will not allow them to eat when they want to, snacks wise. They must ask if they want a cookie before they just help themselves to the whole jar. Must say please and thank you, very important to me. Attend church and be in church functions. I want them to do something with themselves while in school. Meaning I want them in band, sports, clubs or anything of their choosing. I believe in grounding, strict grounding. Chores, oh yes chores. If they do not do them, grounded. I believe in buying them toys and what not if they do what they are asked.
There are just many things I plan on being with my children. I know I may sound strict as heck, but this is pretty much how my husband was raised. He is the most respectful, faithful and caring man there is too, because of the way he was raised. Which is the very reason why I want my children raised much like how he was. His parents were amazing parents, strict or not. I respect the way they did their job and look forward to being just as strict with my own. My kids might hate me time to time, but hey oh well. They will love me in the end. That is all that matters.
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